Social media; deeper into the rabbit hole we go..

Social media, a dark and deep rabbit hole that many of us have fallen into and can't seem to get back out. With no light, no escape just a platform in order to get likes, see how many followers we can get, show others our "perfect lives" and spread hate via bullying.

Social media is no longer what i remember it being for, a way to contact family or friends who lived far away, a way to be able to search for things that we were interested in. Now social media has become a vast platform for many users, now i can't hate bash social media as it has benefited a lot of people suffering with issues and being able to talk to others about it. With online chat groups, to video calls, to blogs and even setting up pages and organising events. But once you go further into the rabbit hole, there is more to see than meets the eye...

Applications like instagram have become such a big part of a lot of people's lives, now I don't want to say especially for young girls because that's not the case. Instagram influences so many people, from men who see these really muscley men, to them standing with beautiful women and fancy cars. To women skinny, or larger boasting about themselves. To people showing off their make up ranges and what's influential clothing, to people advertising their lives and trying to show perfect homes, with their perfect husbands/wife and kids and even pets. We've become part of this society where we are no longer happy in ourselves unless we are showing others what we are happy about. Whether it's to receive comments good or bad , likes, shares anything to make us feel important. It's like they say any press is good press.

We post pictures of us in our underwear promoting real bodies, knowing that were going to receive negative and positive comments. But that's the thrill we are getting people talking about yourself. It's no longer to be body positive or help others it's to be relevant. Once you go into the rabbit hole it gets deeper, you start setting others against each other. One person comments negatively then several people gang up and verbally attack someone else. We thrive on people's comments, we thrive on being relevant in others lives, when these people do not have an immediate impact on our lives. It's no longer what can i do to help someone, it's what can i do to get more money or to become more famous. We are in such a warped world that none of us can see it.

We check into places, to so show everyone how wonderful things are are, and that were visiting exciting places...because were exciting people. Nope not me, im at home in my pjs right now typing away and i'm happy with that, no need to be broadcasting. We have thousands of friends on facebook, who like and sometimes comment on our posts. How many of them are true, how many of them genuinely care for you and just aren't being nosy to talk about the fake life you are betraying or saying aren't they boasting a bit too much. In the real world how many of these people would talk to you if they saw you? If you were sad or hurt who would comfort you? Who would know this without you putting up a status and someone replying inbox me, to then find out they've told someone who mutually dislikes you.

In a world full of Artificial Intelligence Friends, who is really true, and who are you portraying this life to?

Instead of having the power to change lives and influence others into a positive way of thinking, we choose the above. We choose things that are popular, we don't say to others just be yourself, love yourself, be who you are. Were still expecting to fit into a tick box. We are not made to fit into any box...we are made to be wild, made to be colourful, made to have no boundaries no restrictions. We are born free.

You're big and beautiful have this platform, you are skinny and wear make up use facebook. You're big and muscley use instagram. Influence others, get paid become famous. Make them believe this is what the real world, and they have to conform to and compete to have a life like this.

We have chosen not to be happy unless others see that we are, we have set a social media platform which some may find it hard to compete and makes them feel inadequate. Social Media is not the real world, the real world is with your family and friends and the people who love you no matter what your status is, or how many likes you get, or if you're famous. They see the real you and who you choose to be on and off social media...

You can only be true to yourself, and your life. Only you can decide who you want to be, and don't holdback... x

Disclaimer; these opinions are of my own and in no way represent others or individuals. These scenarios are used to help and inform others of abuse and mental health and self help. They are no way directed at individuals. Ren