Solidarity;perks of being a wallflower

Being alone, not being married not having children yet. Many of us have this built into us and into society this is something we have to achieve by a certain time if your life. And if this isn’t achieved, it’s oh so why are you single? Do you not want kids? Why haven’t you got married yet you’re not getting any younger!

Being happy and comfortable in your own company is not a bad thing. The perks of being that wallflower are not bad. I have spent the last 5 years single, and not only have I grown as a person but I have experienced life. I have learnt exactly who I am without having someone else to show me and change aspects of myself for them. I've allowed myself the time to grow and develop. I’ve made the conscious decision to water my own garden before attending to any one else’s.

When you are alone not only do you have time for silence ( I mean who doesn’t like it after a busy loud day). But you have time to reflect on your day and things you achieved that day. Positive affirmations on your day and your life. You, yourself are your biggest fan. No one else only you can make yourself want to achieve things want to prosper in life.

For many years now I used to look at others in their relationships, marriages, kids, buying houses. I would cry, I would weap and say why isn’t that me, why haven’t I got this. Do I not deserve this? Why can’t I be happy and achieve these things. Only now as I Ann older can I look back and see just because these people have what societies deem as achievements and life progress doesn’t mean that it is. This doesn’t mean every person is happy in their lives and their choices. We can’t keep looking in peoples windows and wishing for theirs when our garden isn’t blooming even without those things.

I have always been unique, pretty hard to handle my own person and strong willed. I haven't ever really wanted to fit in, i've never wanted to be the popular girl I just wanted to be me. Now whether that is in solidarity or in a big crowd or the loudest person in a group these are my choices as they are yours. We need to stop being so focused on what others want us to be and what we want to be.

I take pride in knowing I am me, I take pride in the choices I have made in my life. I take pride in being a wallflower....because my wallflower is blossoming and my garden is looking beautiful.

Everyone is always about being body positive and not letting others body shame you... F society and all that.

But I’m saying be you positive. Be positive in your mind, in your thoughts, in your love you give. Be confident of who you are, cheer yourself on everyday, smile and laugh. Look in the mirror at yourself and tell yourself 3 positive things about yourself and your day

you are the beautiful flower, nature you.....x

Disclaimer; these opinions are of my own and in no way represent others or individuals. These scenarios are used to help and inform others of abuse and mental health and self help. They are no way directed at individuals. Ren